A little about me

Hello and Shalom!!!!  I am Nick Garai.

I reside in Maple Ridge, British Columbia, Canada.  I am a divorced man and I have remained single since 2004.  I am 51 years old.  I have two  adult children from my previous marriage. 

I have a very strong work ethic.  I work have multiple nascent online businesses with the long-term goal of being a successful entrepreneur.  I am very friendly and honest with people in my life even those who are strangers.  I think I am too honest.  I tend to be quiet and reserved in personality.

I do not use drugs, smoke or consume alcohol; in fact, I never have.  I stand six feet tall with a medium build.  I have bright blue eyes.  I don't normally dress up as I am a blue collar worker however that will be changing in the coming years as I transition from being an employee to being self-employed.

Currently, I live in a rented apartment.  I am mature, responsible and experienced.

My hobbies are tabletop wargaming (Warhammer 40K, Age of Sigmar, Historical wargaming, fantasy figures), board games, building miniature terrain and scenery, reading (theology, mythology, psychology and some other genres) ,cooking, going out to restaurants, visiting parks and going to beaches.   I enjoy meaningful activities.  My favorite foods are Mediterranean Cuisine, sushi and honey garlic chicken wings.  I do not watch television or go to movies. 

I enjoy animals as all of my blood relatives own dogs.

My favorite weather is chaotic, tempestuous storms.  J'adore rain and snowfall.  Thunder and lightning are awesome to experience.  I prefer cooler weather and am not very much into warm sunny days.  My favorite place to go for a vacation would be the Falkland Islands.  My favorite music genres are 80's soft rock, contemporary gospel (selective songs) and old country.  My favorite book in Scripture is Proverbs.  My favorite secular book is the dictionary.

If I could choose my ideal career it would be imagination engineer.   My personality type is a Sigma male.  

My family is Hungarian on both sides; so I am a purebred Hungarian man.  I am a first generation born Canadian.  

I am currently preparing to undergo an online conversion program as well I am seeking a synagogue I can be part of.  I currently celebrate  Jewish calendar events by myself because there is no Jewish community locally and I do work f/t evenings five nights a week to free myself ultimately through self-employment so I can have more free time to participate in Jewish yearly events.  I identify strongly to my Ashkenazi Jewish identity due to patrilineal Jewish heritage, life experiences and spiritual convictions.  I work lots to get ahead so attending a place of worship has not been happening for a very long time.  I do not consider myself a Christian but instead a Jewish man who has a history of knowing the Christian Savior although that is in my past and I have since renounced my Christian identity.   I had been having some personal difficulties reconciling going to church when there is tremendous support from a plethora of Christian denominations for the Christian Peacemakers Teams operating in Israel and church support for Boycott Divestment and Sanctions against Israel.  It is very difficult for me to find a sense of peace in church and participating in Christian institutions because of this.    I am not part of the Messianic Jewish movement and I am not a supporter of organizations such as Jews for Jesus.  I recognize Passover and Hanukkah instead of Easter and Christmas.   I love G-d as He is first and foremost in any relationship I enter.  I expect my future partner to have the same love and priority for Him.  Incidentally - I am circumcised.  I am not affiliated with any particular Jewish denomination.  I believe strongly in the Hebrew Scriptures and their value in living a godly life.  I do not preach Christianity in my life instead following Jewish philosophies on good living, business success  and being charitable.  I was a Christian for many years but was undesirable to Christian women and poorly received by many Christians when I revealed my Jewish heritage.  Today I publicly display my Jewish identity and I am at peace with it.   I feel Jewish and not Christian.  I am not a full-blooded Jew as I have not formally converted to Judaism and my mother is not a Jew.  Much has occurred in my life that has convinced me that being Jewish is my future and how people will receive me.  When I was a young man I was naïve about Christianity - now I am experienced and self-educated.   I have firsthand experience knowing what alienation feels like.   Halakhic law does not recognize me as a Jew however G-d knows my heart and He is the one who ultimately knows who and what someone is.  I do not attempt to convince any person of who I am; G-d ultimately is the one who knows me.

I am not as observant of a Jewish man as I would like to be but I would like that to change.  When I have a family again, Friday nights are to be Sabbath night.  That is family night.  I am a Friday Sabbatarian.  Friday nights are supposed to be formal dinner night, going out to a restaurant or doing something fun in town.  Sabbath is the one time during the week when family takes the stage and everything else is not important.  

 בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה יהוה אֱלֹהֵינוּּ, מֶלֶך הָעוֹלָם